Are you really obsessed with food and powerless over it? Here are ten common forms of obsessive thinking about food that many OA members have experienced. If you’ve experienced these or similar thinking, you may be in the grip of the obsession with food.
1. Moments after finishing one meal, you begin thinking about the next
You arrive at work at 9:00, having just tossed down a quick breakfast. For the next several hours, you fixate on what you’ll get for lunch. The minutes tick away. You tell yourself you’ll wait until 1:00, but at 12:15, you say “screw it” and yank the takeout menu from the top drawer of your desk….
2. Anytime you have a strong feeling (happy, mad, sad, glad), you get the urge to eat
The Red Sox win! Time to eat. My daughter has filed for divorce. Time to eat. The cable is on the fritz again. Time to eat. My doctor called, and the diabetes hasn’t gotten as bad as I’d feared. Time to eat.
3. Food thoughts pop unbidden into your mind throughout the day and over time
The deadline for that report is the end of the day. You’re about halfway done. This section is just killing you. Then this thought: Oh, remember that time in Denver when I had that dessert with….
4. The same foods or food types dominate your thinking
5. You rationalize food behaviors
“Just because my blood sugar is at dangerous levels doesn’t mean I shouldn’t have a little fun. My doctor is such wet blanket. He’d eat too if he had to deal with what I deal with. What’s one little bite going to do to me anyway. I’m making too much of this.”
6. Ultimately, you always lose the argument with yourself about your eating
- Good Self: Don’t eat that last helping that’s in the dish. You know it’s just going to make you fatter.
- Bad Self: But it’s good. You deserve a treat.
- Good Self: Think about how much more exercise or dieting you’d have to do to get rid of it.
- Bad Self: Like you’ve worried about it lately, anyway?
- Good Self: And your knees always hurt, and your back hurts, and your neck hurts.
- Bad Self: Exactly, so just have a bite and we’ll take away the pain for a few moments.
7. The idea of going without certain foods creates a visceral reaction of fear or anger
Something is upside down if life wouldn’t be worth living without a favorite food.
8. You often plan elaborate meals months in advance, sometimes even for fantasy meals that will never happen
And you’re not a chef, caterer, wedding planner, or other culinary or event-planning professional.
9. Passing a convenience store triggers you to stop and buy food
Our dealer is on every corner and even has signs inviting us in. But we don’t really need those signs because we know exactly where the store keeps the goodies we
10. Pushing away a half-eaten plate seems utterly foreign
She’s not going to finish that? Is she ill? What planet is she from? If she’s not going to eat, maybe I can.
11. I’ll never get skinny—I might as well just keep eating my face off
There’s a lot truth here. We likely never will get the body we want when our mind constantly thinks about food. That’s because we can’t fix ourselves. We can’t outwit our own diseased minds.
This is just a selection of the kinds of thinking we hear about in OA meetings all the time. These old tapes run endlessly in our minds while we remain in the throes of compulsive eating.
But there is a solution.
The 12 Steps of OA provide relief from the daily slog of trying to think ourselves out of a disease that works through our own minds. With OA’s help we can eat like a normal person, one day at a time.